It would have been a great pleasure if I had the chance to
meet Nelson Mandela, the father of African democracy in my lifetime. Mandela is
a hero, an icon, and a liberator whose memory will stay with the world forever.
More and more children will be born and will be named Mandela, oblivious of the
struggles the world leader walked through. His path was rough and rugged. A
road we never want to travel again as global citizens.
Mandela’ long battle with death began in August 2013. He fought
back. Perhaps it was due to the spotlight that surrounded him at that moment.
Hungry journalists hovering around the corridors hoping to be the first to run
the breaking headline “Mandiba Goodbye!”. The timing of his demise would never
be right.
The world was united in grief and mourning an icon, a bacon
of peace, a Nobel prize winner who taught many the art of forgiveness and the
need of unity and good leadership.
Mandela carried the headlines. Media houses sang his
praises. Broadcasted his documentaries and films, “A Hero’s long struggle from
apartheid” “The father of African democracy”
Mandela this, Mandela that. All of it hypocritical just to sell their
publications and get the hungry masses glued to their live broadcasts. Many
wanted to be associated with him. Those who had had the chance to meet him
changed their profile photos to the one next to him and bragged on their social
media timelines. The rest like me “photo shopped” (is that the word?) just to
appear relevant! Don’t get me wrong. It is a shitty world and relevance is all
that matters. World leaders hitched air force one to the city under the sun to
pay their last respect. A legacy and lifeline of their political career!
Thousands of both local and international residents gathered in Pretoria to bid
farewell to Tata Mandiba. Each one with their selfish personal reason attached.
Hypocrisy was the epicenter of it all!
I admired Mandela. He was many things. Not any feet can fit
into his shoe. But Mandela was also human. He erred, not once. As a husband and
a father his scorecard was pitiful.. “But I was in jail for 28 damn years!” I
thank you, South Africa thanks you and the world fetes you.
But Tata mandiba, your first wife Eveline, left because you
were never home Mr. Mandela, God rest her soul in peace. I can imagine the
frustrations she went through. Cooking her best recipes that went untouched,
buying that red silky sexy lingerie and no one was around to tell her how
beautiful and damn sexy she looked in it. Artificial insomnia coupled up with
anxiety and a need that kept her awake all night, I would not be surprised if
she caught some form of LONELY WOMAN
SYNDROME disease. Mr. Mandela was never home! South Africa needed to be
liberated! After a whirlwind of disappointments she decided to throw in the
towel. After 14 years of loneliness and trying to overlook Mandela’s flaws, she
bailed.
Barely months out of his failed marriage, a marriage where
he sired 3 children, Mandela married Winnie Medikizela in 1958. It was a church
ceremony. Wedding bells ringing from each corner, pretty women all made up
waiting to receive Mandela’s next bride. But wait a minute, did Mandela cheat
on his wife before the divorce? Did Eveline leave because of Winnie?
Evaline had to get to work the next day after a night from
hell. She probably had to wear oversized black dark glasses to conceal the
swollen lines beneath her red eyes. Mandela damaged Eve and left her broken and
empty. Many would say that polygamy was accepted then in South Africa. How fast
he moved on is what shocks me.
Enter Nonzamo Winnie Madikizela. A woman of steel. I respect
this woman with every fibre of my female being. She championed the struggle to
free Mandela. She kept the liberation dream alive while fighting for her
husband’s freedom. Winnie never enjoyed
time with Mandela. She was harassed, jailed because of Mandela. I still believe
without Winnie Mandela South Africans would have forgotten Mandela and he would
have never left that island. Fast Rewind………. Before she met Rolihiahia Mandela,
Winnie’s life was perfect. She went to a good school, got a perfect grades and
a dream job to cream up her crème life. She dreamt of falling in love with the
perfect man and having perfect children.
Mandela sold his dreams to Winnie maybe on a dinner date. Winnie bought it. She was fascinated by his beliefs and swore
to stand by him. Bore him children and became his wife. She waited for Mandela
for 28 years, fought for his freedom and keeping his memory alive. She was
there when he was released from jail. She helped him walk to freedom. But as
soon as he was installed as the president of the federal republic of South
Africa? He dumped Winnie soon enough denying Winnie the dream where everything
ended with perfect, FIRST LADY. This
is inhuman.
He should have been a little considerate and write her a
note stating that he intends to dump her as soon as he occupied the house on
the hill. The lawn is always greener here. This is the dream that made Medikizela fight
for years. They say hope is feathered and she flew, she dreamt of furnishing
the house on the hill with her favorite colors maybe orange and brown, blue and
pink, *Shrug*, who knows, buy
kitchenware of her choice, She dreamt of buying linen from Egypt, host dinner
for visiting first families from across the world. She wanted to be the envy of
every South African female. She had it all written down in their perfect
wonderful script. It was designed in her mind until Mandela crushed it! He
killed her dream. Mandela never fought for Winnie. He never defended her DREAM.
He walked away!
It’s like a reading an amazing novel that keeps you
enchanted until the prince falls in love with the frog. What I realized is in
the real world, the princess never gets the prince. I believe a dream assassin is equivalent to
an assassin. How can the world be blind this kind of atrocity that Mandela
committed to the female kind?
Mandela left Winnie for Graca.
A woman blessed enough to be married to two sitting
presidents from different countries. Just when did Graca realize she was in
love with Mandela? Maybe if Mandela were not a global sensation, she would have
never set her eyes on him. Was this luck or a clear calculation? Graca finally
became Mandela’s third wife. She irked Winnie in every wrong way. Winnie
resented her. She had stolen her dream and made it her reality. She stole her
man too. She chilled Winnie to the core that she even nick named her “STATE
CONCUBINE”. What was Graca’s role in Mandela’s life? What did she seek to
achieve? She has decorated state house many a times before. She has bore
presidential children. She has hosted
state parties. Was this not enough? Did she have to live Winnie’s dream again?
Mandela, fare thee well, a man who wrongly stirred the
female world